Thoughts on dating a friend’s ex?
To make a long story short, it depends. Is it your friend’s ex-partner or just an ex-talking stage because both scenarios have different emotional baggage. For example, if they dated for months, the breakup was messy, and your friend is still not over it, STAY AWAY! Do not even ask; do not go there. But if they only talked briefly and never hung out one-on-one, go for it! A good rule of thumb to follow is if your friend has moved on from that ex, then their ex can move on too, so you’re free to go. But if your friend tends to be a bit more sensitive, it can’t hurt to tell them you’re thinking of making a move ahead of time. Friends are way more important than any relationship or prospective relationship, but I understand we go to a small school so prospects are limited. People can’t have a monopoly over their exes.
What should I do if I feel left out by my friends?
This is such a classic high school scenario. You should advocate for yourself! Don’t just wallow in your pity: take a step and ask for what you want. Ask to hangout with them, ask what they’re doing on the weekend, just ask! I know it’s scary to stand up for yourself, but the worst they can do is keep leaving you out and in that case, find some new friends because they obviously do not deserve to have you around. I also understand that at Seven Hills, so many people have gone to school together for so long, and it can make it really hard to make new friends or break into a group, but you should never feel like you have to earn your place in a group. There’s definitely people out there who would value you and what you bring to the table, so just be yourself and try to meet new people.
How do I manage friendships and school? I feel like I never get to see my friends.
I honestly am trying to figure this out myself. I’ve found recently that it’s about time management. Try planning out your assignments and what day you are going to do them. I like to get my homework for the weekend done on Thursday and Friday afternoons so that I can fully be present to see my friends on the weekend because working all week and weekend is just a recipe for disaster. Also, if you have so much work and you’re exhausted then understand that it is okay to take a weekend off seeing your friends because you don’t want to burn yourself out further. If you do have a lot of work but also want to see your friends, maybe suggest something productive like trying a new coffee shop and doing some homework.
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