My partner broke up with me, and they are the most awful person on the planet. How do I make myself forget about them, or what would be a funny way to get revenge on them?
Heartbreak is the worst pain in the world. I find that in a breakup, the last feeling you feel after all the sadness is anger. Anger at yourself, anger at the person or how things ended, and revenge seems like a gateway out of the pain. The best revenge is not prank calling or driving by their house, as that may signal you’re not over them (and no judgment if you aren’t, but you want them to think you’re over them). Also, anytime you think of doing something like viewing their profile or sending them a snap, imagine them screenshotting it and sending it to their friends: that is super embarrassing. You want to be mysterious.
The best revenge is living your own life and becoming a better version of yourself they don’t have access to. Spending time with your friends, going to a workout class, or cleaning your room will bring you more fulfillment than any prank or revenge. You were a person before your relationship, and you will be someone after it, so as for forgetting him, give it time. People always come back into your life, and the best revenge is growing so much and loving your life enough to say no the next time this supposedly awful person tries to come into your life.
Kiss on the first date?
Ooo, this is such an exciting question! First, make sure the date went well and you’re comfortable with the person. If it is fun, and you like the person, there’s no harm in taking that risk! I think it’s good to take it slow, so maybe a goodbye kiss or something to signal to them you had a good time. If you’re not ready to take that next step, there’s no harm in ending the date with a simple hug or a sign of affection. More important than any potential kiss is establishing that you had a good time and want to see them again. Saying something like “I had a great time, we should do this again” goes way further in person versus over text. But overall, a kiss can’t hurt, and it’s not the be-all and end-all of a good first date.
How do I make the perfect sign for winter formal?
The best quality of any date, whether platonic or romantic, is funny. Something silly, maybe a pun about a shared hobby or their name. If not funny, keep it light and recognizable. You want them to be able to see the sign from a distance and immediately understand. Pinterest is a great place for ideas. It’s much more personable and fun to ask with a sign versus a text! You only have so many high school dances, so why not ask with a sign?
Is it bad to date someone in a different grade?
No, I don’t think it’s inherently bad to date someone in a different grade; however, it becomes a bit nuanced in the later years of high school. It’s hard to get into a relationship knowing the possibility of one of you going to college. I think that’s a bridge people should cross when they get there, and no one should deprive themselves of a connection just based on age because it could be a fun fling. The most important thing is not whether you’re in different grades but whether you are emotionally mature enough to handle a relationship. It can be complicated when there are two different maturity levels, but that can even happen in a relationship between two people the same age. You might have different friend groups or class loads, but if you are both committed and want things to work out, you should communicate your wants and needs.
